Let's Play Judge and Jury

Introduction

Today, we're talking about the age-old question: "Does she deserve you?" I mean, really, what kind of question is that? It's like something straight out of a cheesy rom-com. But, hey, who am I to judge? I’m just a guy keying away behind a keyboard watching Yellowstone and Porn Hub.

What does it mean to “deserve” someone?

So, let's start with the basics. What does it mean to "deserve" someone? Does it mean that one person is somehow better than the other and, therefore, more deserving of love and affection? Or does it mean someone has to meet specific requirements to be considered worthy of a relationship? Either way, it's a load of crap (to an extent).

The truth is, no one is entitled to someone else's love or affection. It's not a matter of deserving or not deserving; it's a matter of mutual attraction, respect, and compatibility (with a heavy emphasis on attraction, there I said it, now move on). We're all free agents (some more valuable than others), able to choose whom we want to be with.

Does she deserve you?

But, hey, let's play with this idea of "deserving" for a moment. Let's pretend that it means something. So, does she deserve you? Well, that depends on many things.

For starters, are you a catch? Are you really? Do you have your life together? Are you kind, funny, and generous? Do you have a good job (some of you fuckers bailed here, I know), good hygiene, and good taste in music (let's not consider today's music just to be safe)? If the answer to all of these questions is yes, then congratulations! You're a real catch; Any woman should be privileged to have you.

But hold on a minute. Let's not forget about her. What about the woman in question? Does she deserve you? Let's consider some statistics for a moment. According to a recent study, 87% of women prefer men taller than them. So, if you're shorter than your partner, I hate to break it to you, but she might not think you're all that deserving after all.

And let's remember finances. Another study found that 43% of women said financial stability was the most critical factor in a partner. So, if you're living paycheck to paycheck, your partner might not think you're all that deserving either. (Funny how women can use this against us, but it is what it is, they need that new trendy bag)

But wait, there's more! According to yet another study, women prefer men with a good sense of humor (makes sense as to why I’m such a catch, right!). So, if you're not all that funny, you might not be as deserving as you thought.

So, does she deserve you? Honestly, who cares? The only thing that matters is whether or not you're happy together. If you're both happy, who cares about some arbitrary idea of deservingness? Life is too short to worry about whether or not you're "deserving" of someone's love.

Compatibility is key

Now, let's talk about the real issue here: compatibility. This is the most crucial factor in any relationship, hands down. Are you and your partner compatible? Do you share similar interests, values, and goals? Do you communicate well and enjoy spending time together? These are the things that matter, not some silly idea of “deservingness."

And, let's be honest, no one is perfect (well, except for me at times). We all have our flaws (some more than others) and our baggage (yes, this includes your 5 Bebe kids and three different baby daddies). It's not about finding someone perfect; it's about finding someone ideal for you. Someone who complements your strengths and supports you in your weaknesses (let's hope she’s not benching more than you).

So, the real question you should be asking is not whether she deserves you but whether you deserve her. Are you willing to put in the effort to make her happy? Are you ready to be there for her when she needs you? Are you willing to be a good partner and support her in her goals and dreams? These are the things that matter.

If She's Not Making You Happy, Its Time to Re-Evaluate

Now, I know what you're thinking. "But, what if she's not treating me right? What if she's taking me for granted or not putting in the effort?” This is reasonable cause we know there are some mean ass women out there.

Well, my friend, that's a different story. If she's not treating you right or putting in the effort, then maybe she doesn't deserve you. But, again, it's not about deservingness but compatibility. If she's not making you happy, not supporting you, or bringing out the best in you, then it's time to re-evaluate the relationship. (aka move the fuck on, dipshit)

The Real Question: Do You Deserve Her?

But, on the other hand, if she's fantastic, makes you laugh, supports you, and is there for you through thick and thin, then maybe you're the one who doesn't deserve her. You may need to step up your game, be a better partner, and show her that you're worthy of her love and affection.

It’s Not About Deservingness, Its About Being Happy Together

In the end, it's not about whether she deserves you or not. It's about whether you're happy together, whether you're compatible, and whether you're willing to put in the effort to make it work. If you're both comfortable and in love, that's all that matters.

So, my advice to you is to forget this whole "deserving" nonsense and focus on what matters. Be a good partner, communicate openly and honestly, support each other, and enjoy your time together. And, hey, if you can do all that with a healthy dose of sarcasm and humor, all the better.

To wrap things up, let me ask you this: does she deserve you? Who cares? The only thing that matters is whether or not you're happy together. And, if you want to keep up with more of my witty, sarcastic relationship advice, be sure to follow me on social media. Trust me; you won't regret it.